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Super Mom: How Does She Do It? {Thrive @ Home Thursday}

Thrive @ Home ThursdayWe all know one or two of them… The mom that manages to run children to multiple activities, work out at the gym, keep a decently clean house, fix dinner, and volunteer for several things at church. Along with making time to nurture friendships and share God’s Truth with others.

The mom that makes you tired just watching her.

I will admit it. I am a little envious of this woman. Because I used to be like her…before becoming a mom.

In college (and after), I slept an average of 5-6 hours each night and ran around like crazy during the day. It didn’t phase me a bit. I was involved in several ministry activities, along with taking classes and working part-time. And I handled it with ease.

I was more of a “Super Mom” before I had a child.

Right now, I still only get about six hours of sleep (on a good night). My day consists of chasing a baby (Toddler? I still have trouble calling her that!) around the house, keeping the dishing and laundry from piling up too much and attempting to put together a strand of coherent sentences to encourage other women. Sometimes I am exhausted. I can’t keep up with Super Mom.

Am I sharing this because I want you do feel sorry for me? Absolutely not! I just have a hunch that if I feel like this some days, than you do too. I want you to know that you are not alone in this.

And can I let you in on a little secret? Super Mom doesn’t really exist.

The woman you are putting on a pedestal and believe to be just-about-perfect has flaws and fears. And she doesn’t get everything done either. She has bad days just like you do. Super Mom is a figment of your imagination.

You see, Super Mom is a mask that many of us often try to wear so people won’t know that we are struggling. But, the fact is, we are all striving for the same thing. To be the best wives and moms we can be. To glorify God in our every day life. To take risks and dance in every circumstance.

So, if you are a mom, you may need to hear this today…

Stop trying to be Super Mom. Don’t compare your life and parenting style to someone else.  Instead, pray for strength and embrace the beautifully insane and exhausting journey of motherhood that you are in.

And those days that you feel like a failure as a mother, remind yourself of the reality: You are a good mom. If you are still in doubt, listen to the truth in the laughter of your babes. Feel it in their tiny arms around your neck.  See it in their smiles.

Because the truth is, in the eyes of your children, you are Super Mom.

And that’s all that really matters.

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About Jenni Mullinix

Jenni is a writer who passionately strives to encourage and equip Christian women to live for the glory of God by fulfilling their call in every season of life. She is happily married to the love of her life and delights in being a stay-at-home mama. She is fascinated with all things domestic and strives to live a life of Gospel-centered simplicity. In her free time, she enjoys deep conversations, decaf lattes and diving into a good book. Read more...

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  1. I agree with you. One of the worst things we can do as mothers is compare ourselves with others. We need to remember that everyone has their own story, everyone is uniquely made by God, and really at the end of the day, the ground is level at the foot of the Cross. Thank you for sharing this!

    Megan @ wwwsunshinethroughthewindows.blogspot.com

    • “The ground is level at the foot of the Cross” Yes! That is so true… And I’m so thankful that it is. Thank you for your comment, Megan!

  2. It’s so good that you know this at this early stage of parenting a toddler. I have teens now and your words couldn’t be more true. I wrote about that very things several months ago in a post called When My Perceptions, Aren’t Your Reality. And even when they are teens there is a tendency to think someone else is doing it better when the thought should be how does He want me to parent the children He gave me.

  3. Even though my youngest is now 16, I sometimes kick myself for not being Super Mom when they were smaller. But then there are moments like this morning. He was asleep in his game room and the TV was on as usual. The last Netflix movie he was watching was showing. We have no parental controls on Netflix and he can select the movies on his own. Instead of choosing some racey rated R movie, he was watching the PG Jumanji. That makes me feel like Super Mom!

    Thanks for the wonderful post!

  4. The more I read of you, the more I decide we are a lot alike. I ran around like a mad woman before I was a mom too! Now I’m struggling to figure out just why I can’t do that anymore. Then I remember, I’m keeping another human being alive and somewhat healthy and happy!

  5. This was a hard lesson for me to learn. I wanted to be the Super Mom that everyone talks about. I came to the conclusion early on– my best is good enough. I have healthy, happy, loving children… that’s all I can ask for.

    Hopped over from That Friday Blog Hop.

    http://www.momontherunx2.com

  6. Great post. I know I struggle with this, because I feel like a failure if I can’t accomplish it all. I have to remind myself that even the Proverbs 31 woman didn’t do it all in one day!

  7. So true! I often compare and try to keep up, and I need to stop and give myself a pat on the back. Thanks for sharing. :) Lauren, lholmes79.wordpress.com

  8. You wrote a great post. I have been there and often still am until I remember to allow the Lord to live through me. Thanks for being an encouragement today!!

    Oh, almost forgot to mention that I stopped over from Momstheword :-)

  9. I saw your pic in my link party, and had to look it up.=) We cannot do it all. We just can’t. I have days-like today-when I am doing tons. But I carve out Thursdays and Fridays to take it easy. No cleaning. Meals with leftovers. Lots of time to read. So, if you happen to read my post tomorrow-remember that. AND-don’t hate me.=)
    Thank you for lining up on my site. I do appreciate it.=)

    • I try to make my Sundays like that. Lunch in the crockpot after church and leftovers for dinner. Afternoons are spend visiting with family/friends or just relaxing at home. Having times like that is much needed!

  10. This is a wonderful reminder!! On those overwhelming days it is sometimes impossible to think anyone else is doing as poorly as you are but when you realize we are all going through life the same way some days then it makes things so much easier! Thank you for your encouragement!

    • Kinda like “the grass is always greener on the other side” in a way, right? So thankful we don’t have to always have it all together… Glad this encouraged you, Kelly! :)

  11. Thanks for this! I think I have been called a super mom once. I think every mom that loves their kids is a super mom! Thanks for the much needed encouragement and for linking up at Mom’s Library!

  12. I compare myself to other moms regularly. I think I feel so guilty because I am a working mom and then on the weekends, I am so behind with housework and chores that I still don’t have as much time as I would like to spend on fun activities with my son. I am glad to know I am not the only one with the chasing super mom complex.

    • Melissa, I can only imagine how difficult it would be to juggle everything as a mother working outside the home. I admire that you strive to balance work and play. Be sure to give yourself grace some weekends and skip the chores to spend time with your son. The dishes can always wait! ;-)

      • Yeah I am slowly accepting that my house is always going to be a disaster area if I want to have any time to spend quality time with my son. I am hopeful that maybe within the next year I will be able to stay home. And the best part, is that my son will still be young enough that he won’t remember me as anything but a stay at home, super fun mom.

        • That would be wonderful, Melissa! I will pray that this becomes a reality for you soon.

          • I essentially wrote about the same things today..LOL…funny how this theme is so common and written in so many ways. Thank you for your writings. I stumbled across your blog via my friend’s blog and this entry caught my eye..You mentioned the super mom that doesn’t exist, that’ what I called, “Phantom Homemaker” an idea and name given to the “ideal” Christian in a book I read years ago where the author called the “ideal” a “Phantom Christian… :) Glad to know we’re not alone in this and that the Lord does show us what we need for our family’s if we will only ask Him. Blessings~Johanna
            Johanna recently posted..Phantom Homemaker- Overwhelmed and in need of HelpMy Profile

          • So glad you found my blog, Johanna! Welcome! I really like the term “Phantom Homemaker” and the idea behind it. Hopping over to read your post now. Hope to see you around here again soon!

  13. Samantha Currey says:

    I can’t begin to thank you enough for this article. I come from a family where perfection and attempting to attain perfection is what’s most important. After coming to Christ I am still struggling with this but yet I am realizing that even though I will fail there is Grace! Thank you for letting God use you to encourage my heart and remind me that being perfect isn’t what He wants. But instead to seek Him and enjoy the beautifully insane ride of motherhood.

    • So glad to read that this post was an encouragement to you, Samantha. May you continue to embrace God’s amazing grace as you follow Him.

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