We all know one or two of them… The mom that manages to get up early for a quiet time, run children to multiple activities, work out at the gym, keep a decently clean house, fix dinner, and volunteer for several things at church. Along with making time to nurture friendships and share God’s Truth with others. The mom that makes you tired just watching her.
I will admit it. I am a little envious of this woman. Because I used to be like her…before becoming a mom.
In college (and after), I slept an average of 5-6 hours each night and ran around like crazy during the day. It didn’t phase me a bit. I was involved in several ministry activities, along with taking classes and working part-time. And I handled it with ease.
I was more of a “Super Mom” before I had a child.
Right now, I still only get about six hours of sleep (on a good night). My day consists of chasing a baby (Toddler? I still have trouble calling her that!) around the house, keeping the dishing and laundry from piling up too much and attempting to put together a strand of coherent sentences to encourage other women. Sometimes I am exhausted. I can’t keep up with Super Mom.
Am I sharing this because I want you do feel sorry for me? Absolutely not! I just have a hunch that if I feel like this some days, than you do too. I want you to know that you are not alone in this.
And can I let you in on a little secret? Super Mom doesn’t really exist.
The woman you are putting on a pedestal and believe to be just-about-perfect has flaws and fears. And she doesn’t get everything done either. She has bad days just like you do. Super Mom is a figment of your imagination.
You see, Super Mom is a mask that many of us often try to wear so people won’t know that we are struggling. But, the fact is, we are all striving for the same thing. To be the best wives and moms we can be. To glorify God in our every day life. To take risks and dance in every circumstance.
So, if you are a mom, you may need to hear this today…
Stop trying to be Super Mom. Don’t compare your life and parenting style to someone else. Instead, pray for strength and embrace the beautifully insane and exhausting journey of motherhood that you are in.
And those days that you feel like a failure as a mother, remind yourself of the reality: You are a good mom because of the grace of God. If you are still in doubt, listen to the truth in the laughter of your babes. Feel it in their tiny arms around your neck. See it in their smiles.
Because the truth is, in the eyes of your children, you are Super Mom.
And that’s all that really matters.