Have you heard the song “Anything You Can Do” from the musical Annie Get Your Gun? It is a humorous song of a man and a woman fighting over who can do things better.
Some of the lyrics go like this:
“Anything you can do, I can do better.
I can do anything better than you.
Anything you can be, I can be greater.
Sooner or later, I’m greater than you.”
I believe many of us secretly sing this song (or one very similar) in the back of our minds when comparing our parenting style to those of our friends. Am I right?
My husband and I were recently discussing some of our family values and how we wanted to implement them in the future. As fairly new parents, we are in the beginning stages of parenting and raising our daughter in the way we believe God is leading us.
Some of our decisions are different than many people.
complaining making an observation that going against the grain was difficult because I felt like I needed to explain myself, people would think we are weird, etc. Matt stated that he didn’t like the phrase “going against the grain” because he felt that it it could easily cause us to become prideful in our decisions.
My husband’s wise words struck a chord. I had never thought of it in this way before.
The attitude of superiority is an easy trap to fall into when you compare yourself to others. However, the fact that we plan to raise our children differently than most people does not mean that we are in any way better parents. We are choosing what we believe is best for our family and situation, just like every other parent is doing.
Ultimately, all Christian parents have the same end goal: to raise godly children. The paths we each choose to take may be a little different, but that should not keep up from encouraging one another along the way. Judging others (or expecting others to judge us) in this area is simply wrong.
It is my desire to avoid a judgmental attitude when it comes to parenting issues. Let us rise above our petty differences and build one another up in the love of Christ. Will you join me in this pursuit?
In what ways are you most encouraged by other parents?