On my most recent trip to the local zoo, I overheard a conversation that saddened me. A woman was boasting to a friend about how she was not one of those “Suzy Homemakers” that stayed home to clean house and take care of her family. She was a career woman.
“I told my husband before we got married that I would not give up my business, would not help him on the farm, and would not be fixing him meals.”
She went on to say that she even refused to fix him lunch when she was home on her days off. He had a mother that could do that if he wanted.
I will be honest, the entire conversation made me a little angry and more than a little frustrated with the way many people in our society view marriage.
Let me be clear, the fact that she wanted to work outside the home or didn’t want to do all the cleaning and cooking is not the issue. Many women (myself included) have husbands who share the load of household duties at times. My concern was the attitude of selfishness that clothed each statement she made.
Is that what marriage has become? Two narcissistic people clinging to their own self-centered ways? The Bible makes it clear that we are to strive for a more excellent way. Philippians 2:3-4 says,
“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another more as important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.”
This is a instruction that should be followed in all relationships, but especially in the union between a husband and wife.
As women of God, our hearts should reflect that of Christ. The humility of Jesus in Philippians 2:5-8 is our ultimate example.
“Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.”
Serving our husbands with a heart of humility can speaks volumes. Our actions and attitudes display our love and respect for our husbands and show the world how to fully demonstrate true love. Real love does not “seek its own” (1 Corinthians 13:5), but rather strives to find ways to bring about the best for others.
Let us lay aside our selfish ambition and pursue an attitude of humility. May our husbands be encouraged as we daily prove our love through our simple acts of service.
In what way can you serve your husband today?